It’s not like you can change it. Why even waste your energy and attention looking back? You have a life to live today. You have bills to pay, work to do, goals to chase. Matter of fact, out of sight, out of mind—right? If you just don’t think about what happened years ago, it probably doesn’t even affect you that much. For a long time, I was one of those people. The mainstream self-help industry loves to sell the idea of healing as a soft, magical fix—like you’re supposed to